Unsure Angel

Dear Advice Angel,

  I'm 12 years old, 13 May 25, and I'm completely miserable! I never see my friends anymore(including my best friend) because we no longer have classes together. I also don't get to talk to them on the phone either. I used to be teased for my weight but not so much anymore since I'm loosing weight. My mom's always at work and doesn't get home until 2 in the morning! My parents also just got a divorce. My mom and I are supposed to be getting a new house with her boyfriend this summer(closing date on my birthday). I'll never get to talk to my friends! On top of that, whenever i try to explain my feelings to my mom, she never listens. I don't know what to do. I never leave the house unless I'm going to school or somewhere with my relatives. I feel like i have no life. My mom thinks I'm trying to grow up to fast because i like MGK & Trey and want to go to their concerts. She also thinks im trying to grow up to fast because instead of always asking her for her credit cards to order things of trey & mgk's offline, i want my own debit card. I'm really just trying to enjoy myself as a kid but I don't know how.

Sincerely,

Unsure Angel


Dear Unsure Angel,

 I have been in your shoes before feeling miserable at that age and feeling like I don't have a life. I realized my parents were just looking out for me at that age because, they didn't want me growing up so fast at the age of 12 and getting myself in trouble. They didn't want me getting pregnant, doing drugs, etc...... As far as asking her for her credit cards to buy things from Trey or MGK, she has the right to say yes or no. You don't need your own credit card or debit card at this age. If you want your own money, ask your mom if you can get an allowance once a week if you do chores. Whatever you want from offline, save the money and see if your mom can get you a gift card from the grocery store and put on it to buy that item you want from offline. Now, the friends issue, I think your mom is scared of the people you may hang with at school or even outside in your neighborhood. Explain to your mom about how you have been feeling about not having friends and try to suggest if she can meet the parents and see if your friends can come over to the house. If you have an other questions, you can ask me. I will answer it the best way I can.

xoxo
Lissa89

Dear Advice Angel,

I have been dating a really nice guy for about 6 months. He is amazing! He is smart, funny, my friends and family like him, and most importantly he loves God. He hasn't tried to be physical with me at all because he says he wants to wait until im sure i want to take our relationship there, but Angel I couldn't be surer. A few nights ago we tried some sexual stuff and it was really great. I'm not sure how to say this without being graphic so here goes, a gave him a hand job, but when he whipped it out I couldn't believe my eyes. He has the largest penis I have ever seen in my life. Now im no virgin by any means but it has been about a year since i have been fucked and my ex was an averaged sized dude and he was my first. Im afraid that it is going to hurt so badly but I dont want to seem like a baby or im inexperienced. What should I do Angel?

Stretched Out Angel

Dear Stretched Out Angel,

Dont take this the wrong way but you lucky wench! Lol most women would kill to have your problem let me tell you. The answer to your problem is very simple. You gotta tell him. If your guy is as great as you say he is then he will totally understand. Why dont you try to prepare for the big night by "helping" yourself along a week before your romp? Using a toy before hand would loosen you up. Now when the night is finally here then you have to make sure you are completely turned on (a little French Kissing on his behalf is in order if you catch my drift) and relaxed before he starts. Let him know to take it slow and only put in as much as you can take. If you cant take it all then speak up! It wont annoy him, in fact he will find it quite flattering that he is pleasing his boo. Im here for you Angel, whenever you need me. Happy humping!

XOXO,

Advice Angel

tired angel

Dear Advice Angel,

I'm tired of being at home. My mom has a new boyfriend and I can't stand him! He is lazy, has no job, and drinks...a lot. He isn't abusive towards me or my sblings, but he is towards my mom. He beats her on a regular basis and if we try to stop him she gets mad and beats us. I came home from class the other day and found him sleeping with another woman in my mother's bed. I told her that night when she got home from work and she slapped me and told me to stop lying and trying to ruin her happiness. I feel like he is going to continue making a fool of my mom and hit her so hard one day that he may seriously injury her. I don't know what to do Angel. I'm scared for my mom and I don't want to see her continupsuly getting hurt, but I'm also tired of the tables being turned on me. Any advice?

Tired Angel

Dear Tired Angel,

I'm so sorry to hear that angel. No one should put up with that no matter what, and your mother should actually believe you over any man. If you saw it with your own two eyes why would you lie about something like that. First off all no man should be allow to put their hands on any female next time he does call the cops yeah your mother may be mad but you doing it cause you love her, and don't want her hurt. Things could get a lot worse then what it is now. Tell her you want to see her happy with someone who will treat her like the queen she is and that he deserves better. Angel don't be scared you doing what you believe is best and at the end of the day your mom will appreciate everything you have done for her.


xoxo
IdolizedAngel

Sensual Angel

Dear Advice Angel,

 

Some would say that I have the perfect life. I'm a senior in college and I am set to graduate this summer with my degree in business. I live away from home and my family is coming to see me graduate. Unfortunately they don't know what I do for a living. For the entire 4 years that I have been in school I have stripped to pay my tuition. I live in a big city and I work for one of the most prestigious strip clubs in the world. I have "serviced" some of the most famous sexy guys in the world (Trey included) and I love what I do. Its a rush in a half to dance and make guys go crazy all because of the way I'm moving my body. I have a nice car,nice, apartment, and I wear the best name brand clothes that money can buy and I earned it all. I'm nervous because my parents don't know what I do. They are nosey as hell and I'm sure they are gonna want to know. I'm not ashamed because I'm an adult and good at what I do, but if you were me, how wuld you tell your parents?

 

Sensual Angel

Dear Sensual Angel,

The way I would tell my parents is to be honest with them about what you are doing. If they get mad, tell them how you feel about them being nosy and that they have to realize you are a grown women. Your not a child anymore. It's your decision on what you want to do in life. They can't force you to do what you don't want to do. I was in your position at one time where my parents were very nosy especially my mom. She still is to to a certain extent, but you just have to stand up to them, don't be rude, but just talk to them. If you need any other advice let me know and I will be glad to help.

xoxo

Lissa89

To Frustrated Angel

Dear Advice Angel, 

I have been dealing with something for quite some time so I'm just gonna come out and say it...MY BOYFRIEND IS A LOUSY F**K! He doesn't do any of the stuff that my ex bf used to do...the stuff that I love by the way. Every time I suggest something new he goes off on me and accuses me of cheating because he didn't "teach me" that. The only way I can c*m is by listening to Trey's music, but now he accuses me of fantasizing about Trey (which I am). If we can't listen to music during sex then, I won't get any fulfillment and the relationship will die. He even gets mad if he catches me "helping" myself along. Lately my ex has been calling just to check up on me because we were best friends before we dated and I want him back so badly. Sad thing is he is a bad boyfriend but a great lay. My current boyfriend is a great guy, but I need to be pleased. I hope I haven't confused you, but what should I do?

Frustrated Angel

Dear Frustrated Angel,

Simply put, stick with the current boyfriend. I know, I know, the ex is very tempting. However, sex can only take a relationship so far. If you don't have the chemistry and a strong foundation for a relationship outside of the bedroom, then everything else will fall apart. There is a reason why your ex is YOUR EX. You don't want to create a relationship where you have nothing in common but sex. As far as your current boyfriend, what I would suggest is having a sit-down with him and let him know what you are feeling. There is nothing wrong with  letting your boyfriend know what you like and teaching him those things. In return, ask him what he likes in the bedroom and how you can help him get along. Try reading books or watching videos to help the two of you along. Basically, figure out how sex can enhance the great relationship you guys already have. As Trey said it best, sex ain't better than love. So don't pass up on a good thing just because he has intimacy issues. Work with him. 

XOXO,

Triumphant Angel

Regretful Angel

Dear Advice Angel,

I did some very sexual things with a guy I'd only been dating for a short time and I regret them. Now he is threatening to tell everyone what we did unless I continue to sleep with him. I realize that I'm not  into him the way I once was nad I have no interest in him at all. I do not want to have sex with him any longer, but I don't want my friends and family to find out all the things I did. I don't know what to do. I feel like I'm being forced to do this against my will. DO you have any advice at all for me?

Regretful Angel

Dear Regretful Angel,

I think that you need to tell him that you do not want to have sex with him. No guy needs to be threatening you to have sex with them. Also, I think you need to not talk to him anymore. If he is still threatening you, go to the police and say something or tell your family members what you did. They may get mad, but it's best to tell them the mistake you have done and get it off your chest. Don't feel bad about what you have done. Everyone has made mistakes in their life. Just remember that god forgives you for what you have done. I'm going to give you two verses out of the bible to read that will help you.  Deuteronomy 4:30-31 talks about repentance and 3 John 1:11 talks about peer pressure. If you need any other advice from me let me know. 

xoxo

Lissa89

Split Angel

Dear Advice Angel,

My parents are getting a divorce. They were btoh cheating on each other and I knew about it, but I kept my lips sealed. I'm 19 years old and in college so I feel like this shouldn't be affecting me, but it really is. I cry a lot because I feel like if I had said something to one of them to let them I know I knew about their infidelity I could have saved my family. Now they both hate each other. My mom is forcing my dad to move out of our house and it makes me so sad to see him hurting. He is moving into a small apartment not to far from where we live now and he wants me to move in with him. I love my dad and feel like I am closer to him, but I love my mother as well, but I don't want to hurt either one of them. This is a huge decision and I have no idea what to do. Where should I start?

Split Angel

 

Dear Split Angel,

 

First I would like to say your parents divorce is NOT your fault in no shape, way or form. You can have a sit down with both parents and hopefully you guys can talk over some of the issues of what is going on. No that's not going to change their decision of getting a divorce, but maybe your understanding of their divorce will be clearer to you. Even with a divorce your parents will still love you. You cant force unhappy people to be together. If you go live with your father you can still visit your mother. It's not like you want be able to see her anymore. The decision on who you choose to stay will not make them feel that you love the other parent more and i hope they understand you love the both of them and want them to be happy in the future. I hope I helped you a little.

 

XOXO, WISE ANGEL