To Non Denominational Angel

Dear Advice Angel,

I don't like going to church. I was raised in church my entire life and I love God, but now that my 18th birthday is coming up I'm not sure if I want to continue going. I only go now to please my family and I don't really enjoy it. To be honest, I'm not sure if I want to have a denomination at all. My church is very old fashioned and not a lot of young people attend. I feel out of place at times, like no one can relate to me. Also, I don't believe that you have to attend church in order to show your love for God. I want to talk to my parents about this, but i'm afraid they won't approve. What should I do? Non Denominational Angel 

Dear Non Denominational Angel,

As a young, Christian woman, I understand your issue. However, before quitting the whole idea of church altogether, try visiting other churches of different denominations first. I've tried this, and it worked out well. I ended up joining a church that was exciting, insightful and comfortable for me. And if church still doesn't work out for you (which is okay), try going to non denominational bible studies around your college campus. And most importantly, talk to your parents about your situation. They have probably been through the same situation before, and I'm sure they will understand. Remember this, we all have our own personal relationship with God, and only you and Him can define it. We all worship Him in different ways. You just need to find yours. Hope this helps!

XOXO,

Triumphant Angel

SECRETIVE ANGEL

Dear Advice Angel,

I'm 16, I'm pretty, and I have lots of friends. I'm dating a good looking guy and all my friends seem to like him. I have a great family and I'm on the right track in school, but I am completely miserable. I'm in love with my best friend since kindergarten. She goes to a different school than I do, so the friends I hangout with don't know about her. She has no idea about my boyfriend. I'm afraid to tell anyone that I'm really gay and that my girlfriend is my best friend. My family don't really remember her because they met her like 10 years ago. She and I have been an item for about 3 years, but secretly. I have never told anyone but her about my true feelings and she thinks I'm completely out of the closet like her. Typing this now makes me feel like a huge weight has been lifted off of my shoulders. My girlfriend wants to come to my 17th birthday party that my parents are throwing this summer and I know she wants me to introduce her as my girlfriend, but I don't think I can do it. I know if I don't though she will be pissed and probably breakup with me and I can't have that. I feel so torn I don't know what to do. To make matters worse, the guy im dating wants to meet my parents. Please tell me what to do.

Secretive Angel

 

 

Dear Secretive Angel,

 

First off I would like to say thank you for coming to us for advice. From my understanding you are more concerned on what others think of you. No your parents may not be happy with your decision of dating but it is your life. What's the point of living a secretive life? If your bestfriend is the person that makes you happy then be with her. Friends come and go if they are your real friends then no matter if you are gay or not they will still be there for you. Dont lead your boyfriend on. Let him know how you feel. I know it isnt easy telling people you are homosexual, and you are scared you will be judged, but holding it in is only making you more miserable. We live in a world were we are judged regaurdless anyway. You dont always have to tell people verbally about how you feel. Maybe you can let the ones that you want to know thru writing a letter just like you did us. (If that way is easier to you) I cant tell you wheather to choose your bf or gf but i can tell you to go with your heart and not by what you think others my say bout you if you choose either one. Dont rush yourself to make a decision either. Give yourself time to think everything over. Remember it's your life and you choose if you want to be happy or not by the decisions you make!

 

XOXO, WISE ANGEL

To: Uncomfortable Angel

Dear Advice Angel,

 

I need help. About 6 months ago I met this really nice guy. We hit it off and I really like him a lot. It didn't take long for the relationship to turn physical and let me tell you he is the shit in every sense of the word. He is trying for an intership this summer so for the past month he has been very distant. I mean don't get me wrong I hope he gets it, but damn you can't put it on a girl the way he did and then just back off. WTF! Last weekend I went to a party with some of my friends because I got tired of waiting on a call from him. I drank way more than I should have and had casual sex with a guy I didn't know. I can't remember if we used protection or not because I was so out of it, but now I have a strange smell and discharge coming from down there. I just got a text from my bf saying that he wanted to take me out this weekend and that he was sorry for ignoring me. Like I said, its been a month since our last romp so I knwo he wants to get it in. I am freaking the fuck out because I have no idea what to do or what it could be. I'm scared as hell to tell my mom and my sister would kill me. I don't know where to turn Angel, give me some advice.

 

Uncomfortable Angel

Dear Uncomfortable Angel,

First and foremost you should really go to the doctor before you EVEN think about having relations with your current boyfriend again. I know you scared as hell, so would I but I mean you gotta look out for yourself here hun just make sure nothing is wrong there. Take as many tests there is pregnancy std, etc I'm not trying to scare you just trying to look out for you angel. When you get the results you have to tell your boyfriend what happen don't keep it in cause it will only have matters worse trust me I been there and done that ( me personally getting cheated on )  the whole cheating thing isn't something you wanna hear but I rather hear it from the person's mouth then someone else. Tell him he felt like he was putting you on the back burner you felt alone and all you wanted was his attention that he was being distant and you couldn't understand why he was doing it. If he gets mad and needs a few days to think about the situation where you cheated give it to him let him cool off. After a week ask if he wants to talk, and let him know you still want to be with him he means something to you, and you want this relationship to last. Don't be scare if you have anymore questions we are here to help you, I really hope this works out for the best angel. 

xoxo

IdolizedAngel

to anonymous angel

if i gone meet the right person someone someday cause its hard well its like i'm wasting time



Dear Anonymous Angel,
I dont know what you are asking but in a sense you came here for help and im goin to help you best i can. First off you are here for a reason so you arent wasting your time. The bible states in Romans chapter 8 verse 28 in that we are all called according to his purpose. So God has given you a purpose on this earth. I wish you would have asked a direct question but from what I read I would suggest counseling and sitting down with a professional and really discuss your feelings and problems with them. Call the Cousenling and Crisis Hotline at these two numbers 1800-448-3000 or 1800-448-1833 (TDD) and they will be gladly available to help. You can always come back here to ask questions as well and i will be glad to help you. please dont feel down or depressed because being in a relationship or having someone doesnt defne who you are as a person. So im here for ya..






xoxo,
bballmypassion<3

Response to Lost Angel

Dear Advice Angel,

Where do I start? I'm not happy with the way my life is going at the moment and I don't know what to do. I'm not sure if I like my job anymore. I love my boyfriend and we have been together for 5 years, but I don't know if I want to marry him. If you can't tell I'm an older Angel and I feel embarrassed asking you ladies for help. I'm 25 and have graduated from college, but I feel like I'm not sdoing my heart's work. I had to turn somewhere though because I feel so lost. I just am so unsure about what I want out of life. Do you have any advice for me?

Lost Angel

 

Dear Lost Angel,

For starters i want to say you came to the right place.:) I feel like you are going through a mid-age crisis where you are trying to fully figure out what you want now that you are out of school and working. I would say talk to your boyfriend and together see where you want to go as in if marriage is the next step for you. Dont feel embarrasssed we are all in the helping business together and I want the best for you. I suggest you write out a Pro and Con list of things you want to achieve now and within the next 5-10 years. Have your boyfriend do the same and One night after dinner compare notes and listen to each other and go from therein figuring out what to do next. As far as your job goes, if you really dont like it dont leave just yet but start looking for another job that you feel will suit your needs and will make you feel comfortable. When I was looking for a job I was looking at the aspect of what makes me happy, what do i like to do. For me that was working with people and working with children and luckily I'm blessed to have two jobs where im doing something i love to do. :)So try that and see if that helps you and of course im always a email or question away ;)....

 

 

xoxo,

bballmypassion <3

To Scared Angel

Dear Advice Angel,

I have a terrible secret that I am tired of keeping. My step dad comes into my room some nights and makes me do things to him. He has penetrated me, but he makes me do other stuff and I'm afraid sex will be next. My mother hasn't had much luck with finding a nice man so what my step dad says is gold in this house. I know that if I tell her she won't believe me or nothing will happen. I'm almost 18 and I am going to live with my real dad for the summer so I'm thinking of telling him, but I'm afraid what he might do. I'm scared Angel and I don't know what my next step should be. Please help me.

Scared Angel

 

Hi Scared Angel,

WOW..is what i thought when i first began to read this. You need to tell someone about this because your step dad is hurting you and needs to be punished big time. Ive never been in this situation before but from I have heard this damages both people. I encourage you to tell your mom, dad ,teacher somebody needs to know. Im glad you told us but You gotta tell your dad, the longer you wait the more your step dad has control over you and he could be doing this to other kids as well. This is abuse sexual abuse. If you cant tell your parent you can call the National Sexual Abuse Hotline and talk with someone about it 1800-656-4673.it is free and confidential. I encourage you to call this number and i hope and pray that you get through this situation. Im here and a email away skyangel@heardmag.com or riahbee323@yahoo.com please email me if you need further help or guidance.love you and praying :0

 

 

xoxo,

bballmypassion <3

Dear Advice Angel,

 

I've been n a relationship for quite some time now and things are ok but, I want to have sex with this otha guy but is not attracted to him. Do you think I'm wrong if I do it?? I kno it's wrong but I just wanna try him out. Been wanting to do it for a long time now!!

 

Curious Angel

 

Dear Curious Angel,

 

Help me to understand something, why would you want to sleep with a guy if you aren't attracted to him? Do you think if you sleep with him your feelings may change? Are things not going as well as you would like them to in your current relationship? I ask all of these things because something must be underlying in your relationship that isn't right. While we are involved with someone else its completely normal to be curious about other people and have your mind linger off, but you have to weigh the pros and cons of doing the "dip". How would you feel if your guy did the "dip" on you? Wouldn't that hurt you? Wouldn't you rather he just break up with you than deceive you? Karma can be a bad thing and I don't want you to risk that. Is it that you are feeling bored in your current relationship? Why don't you try to spice things up in that department! Toys, new positions, movies, and even fruit {look it up :D} can do wonders for your sex life. There is nothing wrong with having fantasies or day dreaming about someone else (Trey has been in my thoughts for a while and I'm married), its when you act on those feelings that problems come in. If you really can't shake that feeling of wanting to know what the other guy is like then maybe you should think about whether you should be in a relationship at all. Remember the grass is not always greener on the other side. All in all I'm here for you Angel, whenever you need me.

 

XOXO,

 

Advice Angel