Dear Advice Angel,

I hate my life. My grades are horrible, I seem to annoy my family, and I have no friends. It has gotten to the point that I no longer want to live. I can't seem to do anything right and I just don't see the brighter side. I have tried countless times to end my life, but nothing seems to work. Whats the use of living if I only get in the way? No one would miss me anyway.

Done Angel


Dear Done Angel,

Reading your question I am in tears because I was you when I was younger. All during 9th and 10th grade I felt like no one wanted me around because I wasn't that popular. I wasn't what society would call "beautiful" and that did a number on my self esteem. It wasn't until I took the time to love myself and appreciate who I was and what I had to offer that things started to turn around. Angel, you are beautiful, inside and out. Never let anyone tell you anything different. As for your grades, don't freak out. You have teachers who care about you and tutors who are there to help. Those grades can be turned around in no time. Don't be afraid to ask for help with school because 9 times out of 10 you are not the only person who is struggling. I don't know everything that's happening, but I bet your family isn't annoyed with you at all. Why do you feel that way? If you are the baby of the family it is easy to feel that you are in the way because you don't have as many life experiences as your siblings and it is hard to relate to each other, but that doesn't mean that they love you any less. In fact I know your family would be devastated if something happened to you. If you don't like how something is going in your life then change it! As far as friends are concerned, do what I did; find an after school club that you are interested in. You need to hang with people who have the same interests as you do. That's how you make friends, by being yourself and doing things that you like to do. I am here for you ANYTIME that you need me. No matter what the question, I'm only an email away (adviceangel@yahoo.com). Keep your head up Angel and don't cut yourself short by trying to end your life. You have so much to live for and you never know what God has in store for you. If you ever feel like you can't take it and you need someone to talk to right away please call The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255). Please call this line before you make any decisions. They are here to help you no matter how small you think the problem is.

XOXO,

Advice Angel

Weaved Out Angel

Dear Advice Angel,

I have been wearing weaves and wigs for about 3 years now. I don't have very long hair and long hair seemed to be in so I stuck with it. None of my friends know that I wear weaves or wigs. They think I just have nice hair. I have an after school job and I spend all of my money on different kinds of hair. My favorite cousin is coming into town and she knows about my weaves. She wants to hangout with me and my friends and I'm afraid that she will say something. My best friend told her about a pool party that she is having and now my cousin wants to go. I told my friend I couldn't swim, but the real reason I don't want to go is because I don't want to get my hair wet because it is so expensive. My cousin and I used to swim all the time. I don't know what to do, please help me. 

Weaved Out Angel

Dear Weaved Out Angel,

All I can tell you is to be honest about your real hair. If u lie once you always have to add on to that lie to keep it goin, and from there things get confusing and fustrating. . I have short have and I LOVE and EMBRASS it. If they are your real friends then they will still be around when the weave is gone. Your hair is not the reasons they are your friends. But if you want to keep the lie going just tell your cousin to keep her mouth shut about it :) But i doubt you would loose a friend over lying about your real hair though!


XOXO, WISE ANGEL 

Dear Advice Angel

My family is always so demanding of me. Im only 14 and right now I just want to be a normal teen. I don't want to think about college, my career, or the next 5 years. How can I tell my parents that I want to enjoy my youth without sounding like im ungrateful?

Confused Angel

Dear Confused Angel,

We are going through the same thing !! Hun and trust me it's not all glitter and gold. Don't let your parents nag you on and on about your choices in life, it IS YOUR LIFE and not theirs. College may not be for everyone and that's perfectly fine but don't just give up and say you done cause you never know you may chance your mind about it. Yeah we know parents can be a little be over doing it and that's just love, but if you wanna wait for college and have fun be a TEEN then do it yeah they may not be happy with your choice but they have to learn to let it go and love you no matter what. Maybe later on down the road you will eventually have the talk with your folks about your career and what you want to do about college. Remember to tell them how you feel you just want to be a normal kid the talk bout career choices will come up soon but just not now mama. 

xoxo

IdolizedAngel

to shy angel

Dear Advice Angel,

I am completely in love with this guy in my physics class. He is perfect from head to toe. He always makes good grades, his wardrobe is amazing, and he keeps the class laughing. He is respectful and he has an amazing smile. The problem is he isn't the most attractive guy in the world. In fact, he really isn't that cute at all, but there is something about him that makes me crazy. We are really good friends and I guess I'm scared to tell him how I feel. He doesn't have a girlfriend because all the girls in my class seem to stay away from him. I confided in one of my friends that I'm kinda feeling him and she told me if I talked to him it would be the worst mistake of my life because he is so ugly. I don't want my friends to laugh at me but I really like this guy. I don't even know if he likes me. Please tell me what to do.

Shy Angel

Hey Shy Angel,

I know what you are going  through. Sometimes its not always about appearance with a guy its about the emotional connect you have with him. Let your friends talk the decision is ultimately yours to  make. So if you feelin him Girl go Head and tell him how you feel and trust me it wont be the biggest mistake of your life, it will be the Best choice you ever made :)....You never know he could be waiting on you to tell him anyway..SOOOOOO tell him and then tell me how it goes..Im here for u angel and will support you.:) You will always have me as a friend to help...Angel Love<3....Hope this helps you

 

xoxo,

bballmypassion <3

To: Offended Angel

Dear Advice Angel,

I have been dating a nice guy for about 3 weeks. I like him a lot and he is very nice and fine. he does his thang in othr places too, but his breath is horrible! I sometimes give him a piece of gum whenever I eat a piece just because I can't stand him trying to kiss me with that stank breath. I want to tell him, but I lke having a boyfriend and making my single friends mad. I don't want him to leave me or get mad at me. What can I do? Is there a sutle way for me to tell him that his breath offends me?

Offended Angel

Dear Offended Angel,

Well you are in a relationship and the MOST IMPORTANT thing in a relationship is honestly. I mean just tell him how you feel it's not good to go on like nothing is bothering you it's best to be real and tell him how it is. If he can't respect that then that's his choice but I'm sure you would want someone to tell you what they feel in a relationship it's not a good enough reason to break up with you if he does then its pity and he's not worth you time or love. It's best to hear it from his girl then some random person on the street who could hurt his feelings. Be real is the key if he can't appreciate that then that's his lost. You can always come back if you anymore questions you can always come back. 

xoxox

IdolizedAngel

To: Stumped Angel

Dear Advice Angel,

I'm 16 and I have two wonderful younger sisters who are 12 and 13. My 13 yr old sister just joined the Pom Pom squad and I am over joyed for her, but she smells. She comes in and takes a shower right after practice every night, but something isn't going right because she still smells badly. I don't want to hurt her feelings because she is very sensitive, but I also don't want her to be teased at school either. My mom told me to talk to her and when I asked her what to say she told me to think of something.This is really bothering me because I don't want her to get mad and not talk to me anymore. Please help me.

Stumped Angel

Dear Stumped Angel,

Took me awhile to try to think of the best way to have a one on one talk with your sister. Get your mom involved she needs to be in there some kind of way, after all she did give birth to her. Just come off easy and try to think of what you would want someone to say to you if you had some odor coming from you. Have a spa day make her feel comfortable don't come off as you being mean she is your sister and you love her just wanna show that you care about her. Take your time just tell her that maybe she should try new shower gels that's only for her she may feel a little uncomfortable with the situation but its better to hear it from the people you love, then someone who doesn't care about you. I hope this works if not you can always come back to me I'm here to help love.

xoxox

IdolizedAngel

Crushing Angel

Dear Advice Angel,

I have been with my boyfriend for about 4 months and things are going great, but there is this new dude that moved in down the street from me and he is F-I-N-E! I see him every morning and he always smiles. For the past week whenever my boyfriend asks me about coming over to hangout I don't want him to because I want to see if my new neighbor will be outside. I kinda want to chat him up because he looks so good to me, but I don't want to cheat on my boyfriend either. How can I tell if this new dude is into me and if he is how can I break it to my boyfriend that we need to cool it down a bit? I think 4 months is a long time and I don't want to limit my options.

Crushing Angel

 

 

Dear Crushing Angel,

 

Well I understand you want to keep your options open, but if you are happy with your boyfriend then stay with him. Dont give up something good for something that appears to be good. Looks can be decieving. You can still be friends with the other dude until you get to now him better. Dont move things to fast. Try to stick it out with your boyfriend if he's the one treating you right. And if  you do get more in touch with your neighbor let him know you have a boyfriend. That way there is no confusion. Also if you want to keep your options open dont get in a relationship keep everything strictly friendly. Flirt but keep it PG 13 lol. Keep it lady like :) Maybe then you can find the one to scoop u up and your Options will be "Closed".

 

XOXO, WISE ANGEL