Response to Rebellious Angel

Dear Advice Angel,

My mom and I do not get along. She yells at me constantly about the smallest things. She HATES the relationships I have with my Angel sisters and the last time Trey came to my city I had to lie about where I was just so I could attend the show. I'm not sure if she is jealous or what, but her being mean to me doesn't make me want to spend anymore time with her at all. I am 17 and I love my mother, but when I turn 18 and move away for college I don't see myself visiting very often and I hate that. I need my relationship to change with my mom, but I'm not sure how to go about it. Any advice?

Rebellious Angel

 

Dear Rebellious Angel,

After reading this a couple times through, I find myself in your shoes alil bit. My mom doesnt yell at me all the time but we do have our differences but I love my mom as well. i would say to seek couseling if talking your feelings out with your mom isn't working. She could just be protective that you are devoting your time to trey and angels that your mom hasn't met yet. i dont know the whole story but maybe explain to her the relationship you have between your angel sisters and see if that works. I do think you should try to keep in contact with your mom even when you go to college because I'm afraid if you disconnect yourself from her after you leave for school you wont be able to get that relationship you truly want with her. A bible verse that pops in my head is Ephesians 6:1 Which says, to obey your parents in the Lord for this is right and to honor them regardless of how they treat you. So do the best you can to honor your mom and express to her your feelings. She may feel neglected that you have given your heart to Trey and your angel sisters but the only way to fully work it out is to talk it out whether thats through writing a note or letter, or sitting face to face or even in a cousneling session. I hope this helps you and you can begin to have a better and healthier and longer relationship with your mom.:).I am here to help whenever you need it..

 

 

xoxo,

bballmypassion <3

Confused Angel

Dear Advice Angel,

I've been dealing with a situation for quite some time now, in which I am stuck. I still have a crush on this boy who is my ex and I'm not sure how he feels. I've gone through periods in which I take 21 days to have no contact with him, thinking I needed to break a bad habit, but I always come out still thinking of him. I have no idea how he feels, but part of me thinks he just wants that "one thing" seeing that he tried to get it in a previous relationship. Once I refused to give it up, he acted like everything was okay for a week or two, and then broke up with me, saying he lost feelings. I don't see how this could be if every time we see each other he flirts with me or even says he has feelings still. Even then, he never makes the move to try it again. I'm so confused, and I think I've done all I can by expressing my feelings and suggesting ways we can figure out if this will work. Now I'm stuck and still crushing more and more each day. I don't understand why I still like him if I feel like it's all games. I need advice.

-Confused Angel

Dear Confused Angel,

You are right, it is all a game to him. I have been there and played this game too many times to sit and watch a fellow angel go through the same thing. First, I commend you for trying to rid yourself of him. When we have a crush, it can be very hard to leave the situation alone and let nature take its course, especially when it is an ex. My first bit of advice would be to get out there and date, date, date! I think you may have your ex bf on the brain because you are not leaving your options open. My mother always told me to get over one guy you have to date another. This guy is an ex for a reason so is getting back with him really worth it? Once you find someone else that you like you may realize that what you saw in your ex really wasn't that great after all. Also, it seems like you found out what kind of guy he really was once you told him the nookie wasn't happening. Now ask yourself, do you really want to have a bf who only has "that" on his mind? Another great way to forget about him is keep yourself busy. Start a new hobby, take up a sport, or make time for your friends. Once your ex sees that you aren't thinking about him he will get the picture and the games will cease. I hope this helped and if you need anything else I'm here for you.

XOXO,

Advice Angel

To: Young Angel

Dear Advice Angel,

 My dad says that Trey Songz is too sexual and he won't let me listen to his music anymore. I'm embarrassed to say this, but I had to download Inevitable because my dad wouldn't let me buy it. I can't talk to my mom about it because she always agrees with whatever my dad says and my brother laughs at me. I will be 14 in two weeks, but I'm still treated like a 3 year old. I want to be a supportive angel, but I'm not if I can't go to the concerts or buy the cds. What else can I do? 

Young Angel

Dear Young Angel,

I know that you are growing up and want to listen to your choice of music. But in this case (and you may not want to hear this), your parents may be right. As much as we all love Trey, his lyrics are very mature, too mature for a 13-14 year old. However, there is an alternative to this. Maybe you should sit down and talk to your parents about possibly coming to a compromise. You could suggest buying the clean version of his CDs, for starters. That way, you can enjoy his music and your parents can feel comfortable about you listening to it. As far as the concerts....yeah, maybe you need to wait a bit, at least until you're a little bit older. Trust me, his concerts get too hot for me to handle myself, and I'm 23! (LOL) Don't worry, you'll have plenty of time to enjoy him and his music. At least, you can start by having an open conversation with your parents. Who knows, what they say may surprise you. Good luck!

XOXO,

Triumphant Angel

So Unpretty

Dear Advice Angel,

I feel so disgusting! Every time I look in the mirror I want to cry. I hate my bumpy skin, my limp hair, and fat ass body. No guys want to date me and no girls want to be my friend. I just want to be accepted.

Ugly Angel


Dear Not Ugly Angel,

Do not put yourself down anymore!! I can't have that!! I chose not to call you "Ugly Angel" because you aren't that, I guarantee it! You are gorgeous and until you believe that no matter what you change about yourself you will always feel the same. You didn't say how old you are, but if you are between the ages of 12-17 chances are you're going through puberty and I'm sure you know those awkward looks won't last. Your skin won't always be pimply, your hair won't always be flat (even though some natural hair people would KILL for flat hair), and your body won't always be thick (thick is in by the way). What I'm trying to say is if you don't like something about yourself then change it, but you have to stop calling out all of your faults. NO ONE IS PERFECT (not even Trey remember the Ustream when he used the Clean and Clear on his face)! Try out a dermatologist for your skin, pump it up spritz is great for the hair, and at least 30 minutes of some kind of physical activity everyday can do wonders for the body!! When you have more confidence in yourself the guys will flock to you and all the girls will want to be your friend. If you ever need anymore advice, you know where to find me ;)

XOXO
Advice Angel

To: Not Ready Angel

Dear Advice Angel,

I have been dating my boyfriend for 5 months now and things are great. I really like him and he makes me smile. Lately he has been asking me more and more about sex, but I'm just not ready to take that step. Although I'm 21 and in college, I'm just not sure I can handle sex right now. How can I tell my boyfriend how I feel without upsetting him?

Not Ready Angel

Dear Not Ready Angel, 

First and foremost, I think that it is so great that you have kept your virginity for this long already. It is quite easy to give in to peer pressure when it comes to giving it up, and the fact that you haven't proves that you're stronger than maybe you even realize. So, with that said, WHY STOP NOW? Just tell your boyfriend the truth, that you're waiting for the perfect time for the two of you to have sex. Tell him that you want the relationship to grow and mature a little bit more before you take that step. Having sex for the first time is something that shouldn't be rushed because that opens a brand new can of worms in your life. There are a lot of risks involved, and before taking the plunge, you have to be cautious, both physically and especially emotionally. Bottom line, there's really no other way to say it. Tell him that you're not ready for sex right now. And if he doesn't accept that, then maybe you should rethink the relationship.

XOXO,

Triumphant Angel

Too Grown Angel

Dear Advice Angel,

My little sister annoys the hell out of me! I'm 15 and she is 10. We have NOTHING in common and when she hangs around me and my friends she annoys us. I love my sister so much, but I will be 16 in 3 months and dating soon (hopefully) and there is no way I want my kid sister hanging around. How can I tell her to leave me and my friends alone without hurting her feelings?

Too Grown Angel

 

 

Dear Too Grown Angel,

I understand where you are coming from. Your lil sister is in that stage where she see the things you do and wants to be just like you. She wants to have the friends you have. She wants to do the things you do.  If you have told her you need your alone time and she still don't listen tell your parents. Sit down and tell her nicely in your own words and something she will understand.  She will eventually grow out of it though. Just make sure you find at least a day out of a week to spend time with her though.. You may just find something u both like to do. She's your lil sister try to make some sort of understanding with her. Trust she will understand and no feelings will be hurt. :)

 

 

XOXO, WISE ANGEL

To Keep it Quiet Angel

Dear Advice Angel,

 

School freakin sucks! I am failing Math and I can't keep up. I'm not sure how to tell my parents that I may have to go to summer school. My teacher told me to get a tutor, but I don't want any other students to know how poorly I'm doing. If I go to summer school, I still won't know what to do. Math has always been a struggle for me. What should I do?

Dear Keep It Quiet Angel,

I been there math sucked for me to no matter what I did I just couldn't get it together, eventually the only thing I had to do is go to summer school, but it worked out for me I learned more than what I did while in school. You shouldn't be scare of what others may think of you after all you could be speaking up for them. Never feel that you are alone it's plenty out there whose afraid to seek out help. As for your parents have a talk with them let them know that you're struggling with math they could help out in that area it's your family you should never seem ashamed in anything you have helps with. Most of all have faith in yourself if you can't then who will? Be your own backbone believe you can do anything that you put your mind to, and if getting extra help does the trick then do it. I'm here if you need anything else.....

With love

IdolizedAngel